How to Maintain Intimacy with Your Partner, While Also Being a Parent - Intimacy in the Time of Corona

Being a full time parent and homeschool teacher right now is a BIG job. You run around with kids all day (or they run around you!) and by the time you put them to bed you may be ready to crawl in with them. You may also have a partner at home with you who wants your time and attention.

How do you switch your brain from baby time to makin’ baby time?

How do you navigate intimacy and not feeling great about your body?

Is it normal for me to want sex during this time? Is it normal for me to NOT?

I talked to Lauren Scafe, a registered nurse and a sex education counselor in training about answering those questions, and more.

Here is what she had to say:

We’ve heard it a 1,000 times by now, but we are ALL navigating unchartered waters.

Our health.

Our jobs.

Our school system.

Our relationship(s).

Nothing is left unscathed right now.

As an RN + Sex Ed Counselor (almost!), I have been digging into this wildly important topic of intimacy & sex during these highly stressful times.

Naturally, I asked women to share their answer to an incredibly vulnerable question... describe your current sex life in one word.

Here’s what these brave souls had to say:

“Disappeared.”

“More active than ever. Working from home has been a blessing on many levels.”

“Unfulfilling.”

“Intimate.”

“I don’t feel valued right now and that’s not a turn on to me.”

“Active.”

“Zero.”

“I think I just feel meh from doing the same thing day in and day out and that transfers. I would describe it the same as my kids, we are surviving but not thriving.”

“A sense of security.”

“I feel more lonely than ever.”

When I first looked at all these responses it immediately reminded me of one thing - we’re all so different, but we’re all NORMAL. An important concept to remember as we start this open conversation.